Wednesday, September 9, 2009
A FEW WORDS ABOUT DALTON'S CANDLE
I do not pretend to know the hurt that Dalton's families have endured since his murder. I have met some wonderful members of his family and I have met some mean ones. We know we have been lied to and we know that things are not always as they seem. But it always comes back to Dalton. Dalton, who is dead and buried in an unmarked grave. Honestly, I can understand if you don't have the money to get a grave marker, but 9 years is a long time to let it go unmarked. Especially for a three year old little boy.
We have tried to remain unbiased in our dealings with Tiffany and J.C.'s families. We keep it as neutral as possible on the blog. A few weeks ago we put a poll question on here about how Dalton's case should be handled, and I believe we upset Tiffany and her family by doing this. Our point by doing this was to keep Dalton's case out there. Reminding the public that his case is unsolved is very important to us and we will do whatever it takes to do that. If Tiffany is innocent, than she and her family deserve closure, just as J.C. and his family do if he is innocent. And what it comes down to is the families.
She said he did it, kind of. He says nothing at all. His family says she did it. The accusations fly on this blog and we just duck and hope someone out there is listening. Where is not for other cases like that poor little girl in Florida, perhaps people would be on the Tiffany is innocent trailer. But according to the story, they are both responsible for Dalton's death, no matter how you look at it. All the bickering on this blog does not change the fact that Dalton is dead. Dead at the age of three. That is the devastating part of it all. He wasn't an adult who could defend himself. And some one abused him, and murdered him. And no one cared about his case for nine years. No one pushed to have something done about it. Dalton just ceased to exist. Erased forever with out even a grave marker to let the world know he was here. Maybe had some one done something, public opinion would be different. But no one did anything. Not his mom. Not his grandparents (accept be petty about a grave marker that they had removed from Dalton's grave, and that now sits in a garage.) Not J.C.. No one. No one made flyers. No one had vigils. No one asked questions. There are no family members of Dalton's who keep a file on his case. Even at our balloon launch, only one person came for him. And that wasn't his mother or father. It was like he was never here. What mother does that? For that matter, no one heard anything from his real father either. Why? What could Dalton have done to anyone to deserve being erased?
I will say though that J.C.'s sister Amy and Mom do keep in close contact with us and have ever since we met them, and have been to every event that we have had. They are the only ones and believe me, the pain that they feel is very visible!
All we wanted was written permission to put a candle on Dalton's grave so people would know he was there. A candle to light his cold dark nights. He isn't even allowed to have that.
The only thing we can do is carry the candle around with us to every event we go to from now on as a reminder of Dalton Springer. And we will do it gladly because we care. We care that some one murdered him and we will light his candle everywhere we go from now on so everyone will know he was here. Every one. We don't need permission any more. Dalton travels with us now. Because CCFHV refuses to forget.
Posted by Belinda Puchajda at 2:35 AM